Merry Christmas from Gay Ol’ Utah! Never before has Utah made the Yuletide gay like it has since Friday. And what is the Christmas season without a grinch? Utah currently has several. My friend sent me this parody of “How the Grinch Stole Christmas” on Monday and I think it’s brilliant, hilarious, and spot on. I did not write it! Writing credit goes to Brad Kramer, Jacob Baker, Cynthia Bailey Lee, and Sunny Ernst Smart. Enjoy!
Every Gay down in Zion
Liked Gay Marriage a lot…
But the Gov, Who lived just North of Downtown,
Did NOT! Continue reading →
Today, December 23, Republican Governor Gary Herbert has declared the State of Utah will go before a judge to ”defend traditional marriage within the borders of Utah.” I don’t know how he can say that as a Utahan and as a Mormon. Traditional marriage in Utah is non-traditional. How delightfully ironic that today, December 23, Mormons will remember the birthday of Joseph Smith, the founder of the Mormon Church, a man who had 34 wives, 1/3 of whom married Joseph while simultaneously married to other men and 1/3 of whom were under the age of 20. The founder of Salt Lake City and colonizer of Utah, Brigham Young, had 55 wives and 34 children. 21 of his wives had never been married, 16 were widows, 6 were divorced, and 6 had living husbands.
Governor Herbert knows all this, he’s just trying to save face and appease the rabidly homophobic Mormon constituency in Utah. Plus he’s trying to make up for how ill prepared and incompetently the state acted on Friday.
That’s why the state filed an emergency motion with the 10th Circuit Court of Appeals in Denver to request a stay. (While writing this, I received a message that the 10th Circuit Court denied the stay. It was denied without prejudice which means the state can and will ask again.) What I did not expect the state to do was request that my marriage be declared void. The Salt Lake Tribune reported the state said in its motion that ”A ruling from the 10th Circuit is ‘crucial to maintaining that status quo,’” and “‘in the event that the district court’s decision is reversed, the licenses issued and the marriages performed in the absence of a stay may be void.’” (emphasis mine).
Yes, the state would void my marriage, or in other words, forcibly divorce me and my husband plus the hundreds of other couples who married on Friday and the hundreds more who will marry today, Monday, December 23…the birthday of Joseph Smith. Continue reading →
Michael and I took a stroll on the streets of downtown Salt Lake on Friday night as we often do. And as we often do, we hold hands.
We approached the intersection of 300 South and State Street where we waited for the light to change. While waiting for a green light a young blonde woman and a man about her age approached the corner of the street, also hand in hand. We waited for the light to change then proceeded to cross.
Half way across the street a car turned and a deep, masculine voice from the car yelled out “Fucking faggots!!” and sped north on State Street. Ever so politely, I waved at the car as the cowardly driver drove off in anonymity. Continue reading →
I recently did an interview on Gay.ru. A reporter from the site contacted me and was curious about my connection to Russia and my thoughts about the current situation in Russia regarding the inhumane laws and treatment of LGBT Russians. My connection to Russia is through a homophobic American religion who sent me to the country when I was a deeply closeted young man. I spent 2 and a half years in Russia, speak Russian and have a special place in my heart for Russia.
You can read the interview in Russian here.
For those who don’t speak Russian or want to put it through an online, translator, the text of my interview is below in English. Continue reading →
According to some “therapists” (i.e. not therapists) in this country, the following dialogue is an appropriate and common exchange between heterosexual males:
“Hey bro! Get me another beer!”
“No problem, man. Hey, how about after the game we get naked and cuddle each other?”
“Hell yeah! That’s the best way to express my hetronormative sexuality! Then I’ll go home and bang my girlfriend!”
If this logic sounds unbelievably stupid, that is because it is. Even so, there are many organizations who consider these ridiculous ideas legitimate actions to help a person rid himself of unwanted homosexual feelings.
This is but a small part of a warped idea called “conversion therapy”, an unregulated, fradulent practice that has gone on for decades and cost people thousands of dollars, countless hours of life and unnecessary trama. This country is about to get an important education in this infuriating, fraudulent ”therapy.” And I find myself very near the center of it. Continue reading →